10 Words & Phrases to Use Once a Day

You can use these everyday phrases to instill confidence, self-respect, and thoughtfulness in your children.

1.       Thank you. Acknowledge your child's efforts to help. "Thanks for setting the table; I got the salad made while you were doing that."

2.       Tell me more. Words like these show your child that you are listening and that you would like to hear more about what's on her mind.

3.       You can do it. Your expression of confidence in your child's ability to do things without your help is important.

4.       How can I help? As your child takes on projects in school, encourage her to think of specific steps necessary to complete it. You both can decide which tasks your child can handle and which ones she'll need help with.

5.       Let's all pitch in. A child is never too young to learn that cooperation and team effort make many jobs easier and speedier-and often more fun. Family activities and group chores can develop into pleasant rituals that enrich a child's life and create fond memories.

6.       How about a hug? Don't just tell your child you love him-show him. Research indicates that young children deprived of physical touch and displays of affection often fail to thrive.

7.       Please. When you ask a favor of anyone-including children-this "magic word" acknowledges that you are asking for a behavior that will help you and/or make you happy. (P.S. Say "thank you" when the job is done.)

8.       Good job. Self-respect and self-confidence grow when your child's efforts and performance are rewarded. Be sure your praise is honest and specific. Focus on efforts and progress, and help her identify her strengths.

9.       It's time to… "It's time to get ready for bed," or "do homework," or "turn off the TV." Young children need structure in their daily lives to provide a measure of security in an often insecure world. It is up to you as a parent to establish and maintain a workable schedule of activities, always remembering that children benefit from regular mealtimes and bedtimes.

10.     I love you. Everyone needs love and affection and a feeling of acceptance and belonging. We can't assume that children know and understand our love for them unless we tell them.